Divorce mediation is spouses discussing and deciding the terms of their divorce with help from a mediator. Here are three important things to know about divorce mediation:
Spouses discuss divorce topics together, during one or more meetings with their mediator.
Spouses are the decision makers in divorce mediation, not lawyers or judges.
The mediator is impartial, never taking sides for or against either spouse.
In my office, about 9 in 10 couples who try mediation reach agreement on all important divorce matters. In Pennsylvania, spouses who reach an agreement in mediation can divorce without setting foot in court.
Some divorcing couples come to mediation with many terms of agreement already worked out. Others come to mediation without any idea of where to start. Either way is fine. They can count on their divorce mediator to help them divorce.
A divorce mediator is a person who helps spouses divorce peacefully, without fighting in court. A divorce mediator:
helps spouses discuss all important divorce topics, so nothing is missed,
offers information to help divorcing wives and husbands may make informed decisions together,
stays impartial, never taking sides for or against either spouse.
A divorce mediator works to make divorce as peaceful as possible. The calm and patient presence of a divorce mediator helps spouses discuss and decide important, even difficult, issues together.
Divorcing spouses need information to help them make informed decisions. A mediator can offer information to both spouses during divorce mediation sessions. For example, a divorce mediator may share information about ways to:
calculate spousal support and alimony,
distribute a home in divorce,
distribute retirement accounts in a way that lowers or avoids taxes and penalties.
A licensed attorney since 1988, I left the courtroom behind in 2012. Now I share my knowledge of Pennsylvania divorce law with spouses who want to divorce without setting foot in court.